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Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents: How to Help Your Child (of Any Age) with Borderline Personality Disorder without Losing Yourself

Stop Walking on Eggshells for Parents: How to Help Your Child (of Any Age) with Borderline Personality Disorder without Losing Yourself

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  • Create Date：2022-05-26 06:52:10
  • Update Date：2025-09-07
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  • Author：Randi Kreger
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Summary

Based on the self-help classic， Stop Walking on Eggshells， this essential guide offers powerful skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder （BPD）—without sacrificing their family or themselves。

If you have a child with BPD， you are all-too-aware of the behavioral and emotional issues that are linked to this disorder—including rages， self-harm， sexual acting out， substance abuse， suicidal behaviors， physical and emotional attacks， and more。 Traditional parenting strategies that work on other kids just don’t work with a borderline child。 But you shouldn’t lose hope。 The good news is that there are parenting strategies that do work。

With this comprehensive resource， you will learn all about borderline personality disorder， how it shows up in children， adolescents， and your adult children， how to obtain proper treatment， and how to manage your child’s condition at home。 You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age， and， as a result， improve your own life as a parent and an individual。 You’ll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD。

Most importantly， you’ll learn how to maintain boundaries and validate your child while also meeting your own needs。 Whether your child is 5 or 25， this book offers tools to help you and your family thrive。

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Reviews

Julie ，

Please Read if you or someone you know has a child with BPDI’m the parent of an adult BPD child currently in a residential program。 Believe me， this book and its sibling book Walking on Eggshells， is a morale life saver。 I strongly recommend that parents of an adult or preteen BPD sufferer find a Social Worker Advocate when your child enters a hospital for the time。 This person will be able to stay with your child as they move through the mental health system and wrangle benefits they will need。 Please Read if you or someone you know has a child with BPDI’m the parent of an adult BPD child currently in a residential program。 Believe me， this book and its sibling book Walking on Eggshells， is a morale life saver。 I strongly recommend that parents of an adult or preteen BPD sufferer find a Social Worker Advocate when your child enters a hospital for the time。 This person will be able to stay with your child as they move through the mental health system and wrangle benefits they will need。 Also contact NAMI。 They get it。 Other parents and suffers of BPD can get support there。 This book is an excellent introduction to the world of major mental health sufferers and their families。 Please read it！ You are not alone！ 。。。more

OjoAusana ，

*received for free from netgalley for honest review* I didn't need to read this book since i don't have any children， but seemed like a useful book to read and i think it was。 Would recommend。 *received for free from netgalley for honest review* I didn't need to read this book since i don't have any children， but seemed like a useful book to read and i think it was。 Would recommend。 。。。more

Kimmy B ，

I was sent a copy from goodreads give away and I can honestly helped me understand the perspective。 As a mother I found it strange that even with though my child doesn’t have BPD it was still relatable to my children’s friends。

bzma1000 ，

Randi Kreger knows the what’s what and the who’s who of Borderline Personality Disorder （BPD）。 She is a beacon of needed light and understanding here。 If you are a parent who thinks this may be part of your child’s story， then this is your book。 It is written in plain， neutral language and well-organized with a summary of key takeaways at the end of each chapter。 Readers reap the experience of Randi， parents in her support groups， and the expert co-authors who share what works， what doesn’t， and Randi Kreger knows the what’s what and the who’s who of Borderline Personality Disorder （BPD）。 She is a beacon of needed light and understanding here。 If you are a parent who thinks this may be part of your child’s story， then this is your book。 It is written in plain， neutral language and well-organized with a summary of key takeaways at the end of each chapter。 Readers reap the experience of Randi， parents in her support groups， and the expert co-authors who share what works， what doesn’t， and why。 I came away feeling so much better equipped to help my adult child and myself。 。。。more

farmwifetwo ，

Would have been nice to have years ago had they dx'd my kid correctly instead of brushing my "excessive behaviour" concerns aside and simply offering meds。 It does explain some of the "you'll be doing this forever" regarding dealing with the behaviour and how I had to have rules and stick to them - ie。 boundaries。。 wish I'd known about that too - comments from the Child Psychiatrist but all he wanted to discuss was。。。 meds。 Would have been nice to have years ago had they dx'd my kid correctly instead of brushing my "excessive behaviour" concerns aside and simply offering meds。 It does explain some of the "you'll be doing this forever" regarding dealing with the behaviour and how I had to have rules and stick to them - ie。 boundaries。。 wish I'd known about that too - comments from the Child Psychiatrist but all he wanted to discuss was。。。 meds。 。。。more

Beebee Pomegranate ，

"It's not about you" therapy is likely still more effective。 Autism is probably playing a bigger role than this book acknowledges。 But kudos to these parents for trying wherever it is they're at with things。 "It's not about you" therapy is likely still more effective。 Autism is probably playing a bigger role than this book acknowledges。 But kudos to these parents for trying wherever it is they're at with things。 。。。more

Emily ，

The best book that I've read on the subject so far。 It has helped me understand my daughter。 The brief explanations of SET-UP and BIFF are very well written。 I will seek more information about these forms of communication。 Thank you for the chapter on mental health care for the parents。 This is so very important。 We can't parent our children who have BPD well if our own mental health is suffering。 The best book that I've read on the subject so far。 It has helped me understand my daughter。 The brief explanations of SET-UP and BIFF are very well written。 I will seek more information about these forms of communication。 Thank you for the chapter on mental health care for the parents。 This is so very important。 We can't parent our children who have BPD well if our own mental health is suffering。 。。。more

Alicia Bayer ，

Borderline Personality Disorder is rampant in my family， so this is an issue I have a lot of experience with。 This book is written by one of the authors of Stop Walking on Eggshells， which I have not read but I have heard that it really vilifies people with BPD。 I believe that， as this book really shines an unpleasant light on people with the disorder。 Kreger talks constantly about not "feeding the monster" and while he's referring to the illness， it makes it seem like he considers kids and youn Borderline Personality Disorder is rampant in my family， so this is an issue I have a lot of experience with。 This book is written by one of the authors of Stop Walking on Eggshells， which I have not read but I have heard that it really vilifies people with BPD。 I believe that， as this book really shines an unpleasant light on people with the disorder。 Kreger talks constantly about not "feeding the monster" and while he's referring to the illness， it makes it seem like he considers kids and young adults with BPD to be monsters。 He gives a lot of examples of behavior of kids and adults with BPD that's really abusive， ugly， illegal， threatening， etc。 Chapters include subjects like what to do if your child is arrested， dealing with their self harm and suicide threats/warnings， dealing with grown children who have BPD and are abusing or neglecting your grandchildren， what to do if they abuse you， dealing with their drug abuse， etc。 They are mostly depicted as incredibly volatile， aggressive， manipulative， selfish， delusional and mean。 Some people with BPD certainly can be， but this book doesn't even really go into the many people who are more inwardly abusive - quietly hating themselves， self harming， thinking nobody loves them， etc。 It also really gives the impression that all cases are severe and permanent， and that your BPD child will never really be successful and/or happy。 The best case scenario here is that they can be functional or at least not live with you and make you miserable for the rest of your life。 Most of the "success stories" involve parents who "learned to set limits" and often cut off contact or became very peripheral in their adult children's lives。 The parents are depicted as saintly， faultless victims， and it never really goes into the fact that BPD is often a reaction to severe childhood abuse， neglect and/or trauma （not at all always -- there does seem to be a high genetic factor）。It's written in a fairly punitive， very controlling way。 I can imagine a lot of the advice making situations worse and making teens feel much more depressed and alone， like the advice to take your child's bedroom door off for two weeks if they self harm。 There's also just no real feeling of support and hope for parents or kids。 The only support for parents is really in the sense of you can take your life back， not of your child will get through this and it can better for everyone。I suspect that a lot of parents of kids with BPD will like this book。 There are lots of quotes from other parents about what the experience has been like for them and/or what worked for them。 It's very validating of parents and the advice about how to communicate is fairly helpful （don't rationalize or argue， do empathize and be brief， etc。）。 I can't help but feel that life will be harder for a lot of kids whose parents get this book， though， and not necessarily in an ultimately constructive way。 The lack of empathy is just staggering。 It really does depict people with BPD like life-destroying psychopaths。This is a subject that needs to be written about， but it's a shame that this is the book that was written。 I read a digital ARC of this book for review。 。。。more

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